Shame’s Shadow- Day Two


Let’s connect the dots.

Yesterday you answered these questions:

What are my biggest sources of shame?

If you want a little more to chew on, how do these two verses relate to the answer you wrote?

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. John 8:32

Don’t you realize that you become the slave of whatever you choose to obey? You can be a slave to sin, which leads to death, or you can choose to obey God, which leads to righteous living.  Romans 6:16

Here’s the thing:  shame is based on past actions; either something done to us or something we’ve done…or both.  Much like the experiences of rejection, abandonment, and betrayal, shame attacks our value at its core.  Shame says I am bad.  I am unworthy.  I am repulsive.  I am worthless.

 King David poured his heart out to God saying this:

6But I am a worm and not a man,

scorned by everyone, despised by the people.

7All who see me mock me;

they hurl insults, shaking their heads.

I have been there.  I have done things (and have had things done to me) that make me tell myself that I am nothing (which is a modern way of saying what David said- “I am a worm.”)  I believed that I was nothing for a very long time.  And, yes, believing that made me hide my face from God.  Shame always hides.

Like Adam and Eve, hiding in a bush or behind a tree, thinking that hiding will give me cover from the shameful acts…I cower internally.

Here’s the thing…something was wormy in each of those situations…it just wasn’t my value.  The actions or behaviors I participated in: yes, wormy.  Definitely.  The actions others performed against me?  So wormy.  Beyond wormy.

My value?  No.  Not wormy.

For the longest time I couldn’t see that.

Believing is a funny thing.  There’s a song lyric that says, “give me something to believe in…”.  I had something to believe in:  I am nothing.  Wisdom would say, however, that what matters most is not just THAT we believe but WHAT we believe.  Shame is a sign that we are believing the wrong thing.

Let me repeat that.

Shame is a warning… a sign that we might be believing the WRONG THING.

So we are going to do this today…we are going to be, what I call, “naked honest” about this shame.  Naked honest is just a way of saying completely exposed.  Not kind of honest.  Not mostly honest.  Not culturally acceptable honest.  Not just-give-the-right-answer honest.

Naked honest.

Being naked honest is the first step in finding our where our value really is.  In order to see where something really is, sometimes we have to start by seeing where it isn’t.  We have to expose the sources of the shame and what we really believe before it can be healed.


Naked honest.

 And honest is good.  Honest is beautiful.  Want to know why?

Come back tomorrow.

But before that, answer this:

Yesterday I identified my biggest sources of shame.  Knowing what these are, what does my shame say that I believe and why?

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