§  Check out the headlines of the latest newspapers from around the country.

§  Ask how they are doing in school.

§  Keep a journal.

§  Research and talk about famous people who used their abilities to get ahead.

§  Make greeting, get-well, or holiday cards to give to other people.

§  Bring a board game.

§  Look at a map and talk about places you would like to visit.

§  Look at magazines in the library or read the newspaper, including the want ads.

§  Play sports in the gymnasium.

§  Work on the computer in the media center.

§  Use post-it notes to write down all the things you like about yourself, like to do or would like to learn how to do, etc.

§  Write stories together.

§  Do a jigsaw puzzle.

§  Walk outside on the playground.

§  Bring in a photo album, and share pictures of your family, house, and pets.

§  Discuss favorite hobbies.

§  Read the same book and talk about your favorite parts.

§  Write a letter to a former teacher, a cousin or relative in another community, an old friend, the editor of a local newspaper, etc.

§  Tell your TeamMate about your work and how you reached your position.

§  Complete a resume together.

§  Give your TeamMate a job application to complete.

§  Administer a career interest inventory.

§  Offer interviewing ideas and discuss proper dress codes for work.

§  Work together on a budget.

§  Discuss the college selection process and entrance examinations.

§  Ask the questions for the driver’s license test.

§  Ask your TeamMate what they like to do.


  1. Set mentoring goals
  2. Talk about life goals
  3. Talk about career goals
  4. Create or revise a resume
  5. Learn about a cultural/religious holiday that neither you nor your tutee celebrate
  6. Research the life of a hero/idol
  7. Share favorite hobbies
  8. Learn a language together
  9. Create a science project
  10. Create a dream career list- then research what it takes to get there
  11. Play board games
  12. Go to the movies (or rent one) and discuss them
  13. Play catch, shoot hoops, or toss a football
  14. Ride bikes
  15. Find interesting information on the internet
  16. Watch T.V. and discuss
  17. Eat at a college dining hall or a restaurant
  18. Go bowling
  19. Make a scrapbook
  20. Share a photo album
  21. Go to a basketball or baseball game (Dodgers, Angels, or Quakes)
  22. Go to a museum or visit the Folk Music Center
  23. Read a book together (try something like Harry Potter or The Hunger Games, or share one of your favorites)
  24. Get involved in a community service project
  25. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or food bank
  26. Write a story together (you start, the mentee continues, and then take turns)
  27. Do arts and crafts projects
  28. Have a picnic
  29. Listen to or make your own music
  30. Shop for food and cook a meal
  31. Do activities on a college campus (swim, play billiards, take a tour, visit a lab, etc.)
  32. Take photographs together
  33. Do homework (although only occasionally)
  34. Go to a concert or play
  35. Go to the library
  36. Do gardening together
  37. Do woodworking together
  38. Talk about your first job
  39. Give a tour of your current job
  40. Play in the park
  41. Go bargain hunting
  42. Play miniature golf
  43. Talk about the future
  44. Visit the Mt. Baldy Visitor’s Center
  45. Visit the Rancho Santa Ana Botanical Gardens
  46. Go hiking in the foothills
  47. Go to the batting cages
  48. Make greeting cards to give to other people
  49. Make a collage
  50. Share your favorite music
  51. Just talk about your mentee’s week
  52. Plan a dream vacation

For college/ adult mentees:

 Spend time learning more about each other in building a personal relationship before formally tackling mentoring program objectives.
 Negotiate your ground rules for working together, when and how you will meet; confidentiality, etc. Schedule official times on your calendars. Sometimes an informal location, such as a coffee shop, may be preferable.
 Conduct some short telephone communications as well, with some structure added in: propose agendas and follow-up actions pertaining to the call.
 Share career stories. Career start, changes made along the way, high and low points. What experiences were helpful?
 Discuss mentee’s personal vision: What would he/she like to be remembered for over the next few years?
 Talk about topics not pertaining to work: news and events, family history, hobbies, movie.
 Discuss mentee’s strengths and how to enhance their growth. (Get mentee should find information from their own observations, comments in performance reviews, informal feedback from supervisors or coworkers (by e-mail, for example), educational grades). What do people say you do best? Mentor can add his/her observations.
 Discuss mentee’s growth areas and tentative plans for working on them. Discuss how feedback will be given and received, and what, if anything, either would like to avoid doing.
 Mentee assignment: Write down the picture of a perfect week. What are you doing, where are you living, how do people talk about you? Discuss these discoveries with your mentor and what you can learn/apply from them.
 Identify/refine 1-3 objectives to work on together — preferably skills pertaining to growth areas and leveraging strengths.
 Mentee can regularly brief Mentor on a book addressing career development/another skill set that mentee is reading independently. Mentor and mentee can also read the same book together throughout the year. Communication, personality style, conflict, creativity, organization — the subject matter can be determined by the mentee’s particular goals for growth during the relationship.
 Discuss any generational differences that may come into play in the workplace. Watch the DDM Series videocast, “What a Difference a Generation Makes,” and discuss afterwards.
 Conduct informal networking by introducing mentee to at least two people who could prove helpful to their careers. Before, provide tips on issues to address or avoid, and review afterwards.
 Invite mentee to one of Mentor’s key meetings. Debrief with mentee afterward.